TIME TO GROW UP!

1/11/2026

I started getting emails in my inbox from a company called Medium.

At first I ignored them—there are so many emails sent to your box that it becomes unpleasant. However, I finally opened one, then another, and another, and discovered that they were written by a “bundle” of young people who hadn’t grown up as yet. It was interesting to hear their points of view and to realize that it wasn’t much different from what we women had as young women. And yet, I sensed a kind of adamant immaturity, and I wondered if I had that same immaturity when I was young. Most of the articles I read were about feminism—a “modern” take on the subject which, at this stage, seems bland.

The articles were written by both white women and women of color. I was shocked to see that the women of color had taken on the same perspective white women held in the 60s and 70s—a point of view that seemed to leave out race.

Can you leave out race in any topic, any time?

Is there any place where it does not exist?

But beyond that, and above that, is the role of sex—pure male and female roles, their places in society. Places that I feel, after all these years, will never change.

The history of the women’s movement does not discuss the psychological wars that existed between white women and women of color. And today no one discusses the fact that these wars still continue. The damage that racial bigotry has done to this world will never be erased. Is it simply one tribe against another, or is it something much deeper that we can’t seem to recognize? Did one ape culture really dominate another and enslave them, or was it—is it—something much deeper?

Whatever it is, I hate it.

The most devastating part of the separation is the psychological damage it does to children of mixed races, who can’t fit into any place in either one—and even when they do, are always seen as the “other.” So is there any answer? Maybe not! Maybe not!

But getting back to male–female differences, and being the grandmother of two female teens about to set foot into the world of THAT, I was forced to send them (my grandgirls) an email I called “Time to Grow Up!” Meaning: check out the reality of the male-dominated society we live in—the one you are about to enter—and which you will have to negotiate in order to survive.

The event that brought me to this point was a Medium article I found today entitled:

The Hidden Cost of Male Ego: Why Women Keep Paying the Emotional Bill

I won’t go into the article. I suggest you read it yourself, because I am not making any judgment—except to say that it brought across a point that reached not just masculinity on an everyday level. It reminded me of the intellectual connection between these everyday actions; the intellectual war—the battle of the sexes.

From this we will never remove ourselves, since doing so would mean the complete deletion of one or the other—unless we remove the “I” equation.

Should I stop here before I bring the axe down on my head? Or am I too late?

The most uncomfortable aspect of all these writings I keep finding in this on line magazine called Medium is that most of what I read by women is about what they call “feminism”—a dead term, so obsolete I don’t know why we are still using it, or why it remains in the dictionary.

Why are young women today concerned about feminism? It is much too late to think about feminism now. Is AI going to be concerned with whether there is feminism among their creations? Come on. Please stop. Jump to hyperspace, please, and move into the real future. Wake up!

I’m not giving any answers, because “you”—“they”—won’t recognize them. This has to be experienced. And the only way to do this is to read, look, examine, dissect everything and every person around you—mentally and psychically—and be aware of what you are seeing and "feeling".

Trust the inner self that you really are. It’s time to grow up.